Adulting star’s secret life revealed!

AWARD-WINNING actor Thembinkosi Mthembu returns as Bonga Tembe in the much-anticipated third season of Adulting.

The 2024 South Africa Film and Television Awards (Saftas) Best Actor and Hunk of the Year Award-winner reprises his role as a married man eager to start a family with his wife, Nkanyezi (played by Londeka Sishi).

However, there’s tension when family goals don’t align: Bonga is ready for fatherhood, but Nkanyezi wants to focus on her career for the next five years.

The conflict sets the stage for gripping drama in the new season.

The 30-year-old actor from KwaNdengezi in KZN shared how his personal experiences influenced his Bonga character.

“My real-life marriage played a big role in shaping how I approached this character, especially in terms of communication and balance.

“Marriage requires teamwork, and my wife helped me prepare for this role. She assisted with my lines. I’d ask her how she’d react to Bonga’s words to Nkanyezi. It was fun trying to get a reaction from her,” Thembinkosi revealed.

The Shaka iLembe actor also spoke about what intrigued him about Bonga’s character.

“I admire Bonga’s focus on family. It’s consistent throughout his journey. However, he struggles with communication and his ego. While ambitious and career-driven, his ego often hinders him, something he needs to work on,” he said.

Reflecting on his experiences and playing Bonga, Thembinkosi offered words of wisdom for navigating relationships: “Men should take things one step at a time. There’s immense pressure on men to succeed, especially in KZN.

“Friends feel like failure, if they haven’t reached certain success or attracted the right partner. We must get back to basics like our dads, who worked simple jobs and provided for their families without societal pressure.”

He said if a woman no longer loves you, let her go.

“There’s no need for verbal or physical abuse. If a partner wants to leave, let her. To women: be kind. Don’t generalise men based on past experiences. If your partner makes an effort, acknowledge it.

“Don’t stay in a relationship for material benefits, if unhappy leave. Staying out of convenience or fear is never the answer. Be kind to yourself. Take breaks from social media, as it can be toxic and misleading.”